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starzkiI've been threatening to post on this for months. I hadn't yet because I didn't want to brag or look like I was offering relationship advice, but I did want to share just how blown away I am by the whole experience. If you're curious, read on.
I would guess everyone who is familiar with me through the Inuyasha fandom or through my fanfiction has heard that scribefigaro and I are in a relationship. It started innocently enough with reviewing stories, emailing, then IMing. But there was something there for both of us, and it led to phone calls, meeting in person, then falling in love. I really never imagined that I would ever be so happy or so lucky.
Don't worry. I won't be writing anything too personal about me and Scribe. I just want to use this space to think and sound out about how a relationship between us came about and exactly why it's so great.
Let me start with my beliefs: First of all, I always believed that I would be alone in life. This wasn't because I'm hideous or because I have a rancid personality. I just knew that I would never be happy in settling for someone who is just "good enough." I've seen too many bad relationships among my friends to subject myself to someone who I don't fully respect or get along with. There's a saying: "I'd rather be lonely than miserable." I lived my romantic life according to this saying, which usually meant that I was going out alone when most of my friends had dates. I'm picky and wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't make me laugh, stimulate my soul, or make me a better person, overall. As soon as someone I was dating showed that he was not right for me with something he did or said, I never hesitated to break it off. I spent my teens and most of my 20's fully preparing for a life lived without a partner. I got okay with myself, figured that if it was me facing the world alone, I'd be just fine with my own company.
I also don't believe that there is just one person out there for everybody. I think there are a handful of people that any person can fall in love with. I think that a person will like some of his or her love interests more than others (or differently than others), but that multiple opportunities for love for anyone can happen. The trick to this whole scheme is finding these people. As I stated above, I had prepared myself for not being lucky enough to find someone I would love.
But I was.
And this is what is truly shocking to me. I foundscribefigaro . Yes, in this tiny corner of the fandom, our meeting wasn't so absurd. But if you knew us, the chances that we met were nearly astronomical. For me, it actually came very close to not happening. I was home alone one Friday night, flipping channels. I wasn't all that into anime, but my eye caught on Cowboy Bebop: The Movie. I loved it. From there I started watching the series on Adult Swim. Inuyasha was on before CB, so I started watching that, too. When I looked up websites about these shows, I kept coming across fanfiction. I read for a while, then started wanting to read certain stories. So I started writing those stories I wanted to read. The rest is history.
So really, if I had anything to do that Friday night four years ago, I might not have foundscribefigaro . It's a scary thought that was so close to actually happening.
Part of me thinks that I would have found somebody that I would have loved. Eventually. Maybe I would have met him through soccer or work. But everything I imagine that could have turned out differently, led me to a different man, just pales when I think ofscribefigaro . Yes, I might have had my sport in common, but I wouldn't laugh as much as I do with Scribe. Yes, we could talk about work for hours, but nothing compares to the conversations about movies, anime, music, television, or books that I have with Scribe.
Then, there are all of the little things I never expected to happen. Like just how much I could love someone and how much it can grow every day. Also, as great as we are when we're talking and carrying on long-distance, we're exponentially better in person. Physically, he's perfect for me, too, in every single way.
Part of me thinks I could never be as happy with anyone else as I am withscribefigaro . It's not something that I'll ever test, but I just want to acknowledge it.
I know statistics. The odds of us meeting were practically nil. But we did meet. And I can't believe just how lucky I am.
This was a long post. And don't really know if I conveyed exactly what I meant. Basically, I never thought "love" would happen to me, but I'm so glad it did. My only advice to others looking for a partner is this: Love yourself. Find a way to be your own best company. That way, when someone comes along that loves you in the same way that you love yourself, you'll recognize it immediately and know that this is the person for you.
scribefigaro and I are in a relationship. It started innocently enough with reviewing stories, emailing, then IMing. But there was something there for both of us, and it led to phone calls, meeting in person, then falling in love. I really never imagined that I would ever be so happy or so lucky.Don't worry. I won't be writing anything too personal about me and Scribe. I just want to use this space to think and sound out about how a relationship between us came about and exactly why it's so great.
Let me start with my beliefs: First of all, I always believed that I would be alone in life. This wasn't because I'm hideous or because I have a rancid personality. I just knew that I would never be happy in settling for someone who is just "good enough." I've seen too many bad relationships among my friends to subject myself to someone who I don't fully respect or get along with. There's a saying: "I'd rather be lonely than miserable." I lived my romantic life according to this saying, which usually meant that I was going out alone when most of my friends had dates. I'm picky and wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't make me laugh, stimulate my soul, or make me a better person, overall. As soon as someone I was dating showed that he was not right for me with something he did or said, I never hesitated to break it off. I spent my teens and most of my 20's fully preparing for a life lived without a partner. I got okay with myself, figured that if it was me facing the world alone, I'd be just fine with my own company.
I also don't believe that there is just one person out there for everybody. I think there are a handful of people that any person can fall in love with. I think that a person will like some of his or her love interests more than others (or differently than others), but that multiple opportunities for love for anyone can happen. The trick to this whole scheme is finding these people. As I stated above, I had prepared myself for not being lucky enough to find someone I would love.
But I was.
And this is what is truly shocking to me. I found
scribefigaro . Yes, in this tiny corner of the fandom, our meeting wasn't so absurd. But if you knew us, the chances that we met were nearly astronomical. For me, it actually came very close to not happening. I was home alone one Friday night, flipping channels. I wasn't all that into anime, but my eye caught on Cowboy Bebop: The Movie. I loved it. From there I started watching the series on Adult Swim. Inuyasha was on before CB, so I started watching that, too. When I looked up websites about these shows, I kept coming across fanfiction. I read for a while, then started wanting to read certain stories. So I started writing those stories I wanted to read. The rest is history.So really, if I had anything to do that Friday night four years ago, I might not have found
scribefigaro . It's a scary thought that was so close to actually happening.Part of me thinks that I would have found somebody that I would have loved. Eventually. Maybe I would have met him through soccer or work. But everything I imagine that could have turned out differently, led me to a different man, just pales when I think of
scribefigaro . Yes, I might have had my sport in common, but I wouldn't laugh as much as I do with Scribe. Yes, we could talk about work for hours, but nothing compares to the conversations about movies, anime, music, television, or books that I have with Scribe.Then, there are all of the little things I never expected to happen. Like just how much I could love someone and how much it can grow every day. Also, as great as we are when we're talking and carrying on long-distance, we're exponentially better in person. Physically, he's perfect for me, too, in every single way.
Part of me thinks I could never be as happy with anyone else as I am with
scribefigaro . It's not something that I'll ever test, but I just want to acknowledge it.I know statistics. The odds of us meeting were practically nil. But we did meet. And I can't believe just how lucky I am.
This was a long post. And don't really know if I conveyed exactly what I meant. Basically, I never thought "love" would happen to me, but I'm so glad it did. My only advice to others looking for a partner is this: Love yourself. Find a way to be your own best company. That way, when someone comes along that loves you in the same way that you love yourself, you'll recognize it immediately and know that this is the person for you.
