On House and Proposals
Apr. 14th, 2009 05:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
starzkiLast night's House was darkly comedic for those who know the back story.
Chase and Cameron got engaged. This was kind of funny because in real life, Jesse Spenser and Jennifer Morrison were actually engaged, but then called off the wedding. I assume this is the reason the two of them are not often filmed together, but it could just be where their characters went. Anyway, when Cameron screwed up Chase's plans to propose and had to kind of grovel to get him to ask her again, I'm sure it was just painful to both of the actors, having to portray the pain of a (kind of) broken engagement.
In the episode, the engagement was a big to-do because Cameron didn't want Chase to propose to her (she found the ring) just because he was feeling sad about Kutner's recent death. So instead of, I don't know, talking to him about the possibility of getting married and when she would like to get engaged and her expectations for marriage, she just ignores the reality, screw's up Chase's planned vacation, and avoids him for most of the episode. It was kind of satisfying when he dumped her.
It's just so annoying that this show has characters who feed into the idea that there is one proposal that must be done in the utmost romantic (and surprise) manner or else the relationship is doomed and they might as well break up. And Cameron's "Will you propose to me?" just grated. Asking that is a proposal. Quit insisting on traditional gender norms when they won't get you what you want or make you happy, as evidenced in the childish way she behaved for 90% of the episode.
I admit to being biased. While![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
scribefigaro and I don't have the most interesting story to tell about "How We Got Engaged" (we talked about marriage and engagement over a series of weeks until we both decided that we were ready for the next step and announced it to our families), we also had none of this ridiculous ham-handed sit-com misunderstanding that happened in this episode and I've seen happen to friends of mine in real life.
I think clear communication is romantic. Clarity is sometimes harsh, but I'd prefer it to any romantic bluriness BS where people don't tell those they love how they really feel. But that's just my opinion.
Sorry. Needed to get that off of my chest.
Chase and Cameron got engaged. This was kind of funny because in real life, Jesse Spenser and Jennifer Morrison were actually engaged, but then called off the wedding. I assume this is the reason the two of them are not often filmed together, but it could just be where their characters went. Anyway, when Cameron screwed up Chase's plans to propose and had to kind of grovel to get him to ask her again, I'm sure it was just painful to both of the actors, having to portray the pain of a (kind of) broken engagement.
In the episode, the engagement was a big to-do because Cameron didn't want Chase to propose to her (she found the ring) just because he was feeling sad about Kutner's recent death. So instead of, I don't know, talking to him about the possibility of getting married and when she would like to get engaged and her expectations for marriage, she just ignores the reality, screw's up Chase's planned vacation, and avoids him for most of the episode. It was kind of satisfying when he dumped her.
It's just so annoying that this show has characters who feed into the idea that there is one proposal that must be done in the utmost romantic (and surprise) manner or else the relationship is doomed and they might as well break up. And Cameron's "Will you propose to me?" just grated. Asking that is a proposal. Quit insisting on traditional gender norms when they won't get you what you want or make you happy, as evidenced in the childish way she behaved for 90% of the episode.
I admit to being biased. While
scribefigaro and I don't have the most interesting story to tell about "How We Got Engaged" (we talked about marriage and engagement over a series of weeks until we both decided that we were ready for the next step and announced it to our families), we also had none of this ridiculous ham-handed sit-com misunderstanding that happened in this episode and I've seen happen to friends of mine in real life.I think clear communication is romantic. Clarity is sometimes harsh, but I'd prefer it to any romantic bluriness BS where people don't tell those they love how they really feel. But that's just my opinion.
Sorry. Needed to get that off of my chest.
